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New Class: Expecting the Inevitable: What to do when a Scene Goes Wrong.

We've all had it happen; something horrible happens during your scene. It doesn't matter whether you were topping, bottoming, serving or being served. You've had a scene that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to.
Expecting the Inevitable (a discussion class taught by Jaine Lane, aka EroticWetAtomic) will address pitfalls and injuries that occur during all kinds of scenes, and what to do about them. In this class we will cover:
* Flexibility
* Adaptability
* Understanding realistic expectations
* Personal responsibility
* How to talk to someone who has injured you unintentionally
* Negotiating a scene for next time
* And more
Not everything that "goes wrong" during scenes is horrible or traumatic. Not everything that stops a scene is something anyone else besides the participants would notice. If you haven't had a scene go wrong yet, consider yourself lucky, as this is a situation of "when" not "if" it happens. Learn how to evaluate, take control and bounce back into the world of play after a not-so-great scene.

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