Big Coyote Energy

What are your views on the ethics of kink? "The difference between assault and BDSM is consent." That entire sentence sums up my views on the ethics of kink and BDSM. Consenting adults can engage in whatever behaviors and activities they prefer, as long as their activities do not impact persons who have not given their consent. There are fetishes that some people have that other people may not be into. I am a very "your kink is not my kink, but you are welcome to enjoy your kinks" kind of person. There are some kinds of play i'm not comfortable witnessing so i will remove myself from the area so others can continue their fun.

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy. Copping out on this one, because i literally don't have one. Rhianna's S&M is the only BDSM related song that i know about. So... We'll go with that one? SURE. Day 10: What are your hard limits? There we go, something i can actually talk about. Hard limits...Hmmm... I've actually got a writing on this.  I break my limits up into two kinds of limits: soft limits and hard limits. Soft limits are things i'll consider doing with specific people, but not things i'm really into. Hard limits are the NOPES of my BDSM life. Hard Limits: The "usuals" (scat/children/animals/amputation/death) Oral sex related extreme gagging/vomit. Anything vomit related. Ingesting things not meant for human consumption. Electrocution/electric play involving piercings or insertable items (piercings, butt plugs, etc). The use or insertion of speculums. This includes oral/spider gags. Drowning Fire play T...

What’s your favorite toy? Hands down? My Hitachi Magic Wand. That thing is an absolute life saver. I didn't have orgasms with partners (except Kamm after a year) without that thing. If we're talking BDSM specific toys, my collar. It is an amazing tool of control. I love when (people who have permission ) people grab my collar and use it control me, choke me or otherwise keep me under wraps.  My collar is from Ring Of Steel and i love it to pieces. I've worn it constantly since 2/10/12 when Kamm put it on me.

Post a kinky image you find erotic. I chose three images to showcase three different kinds of fetishes.  All of them are extremely erotic to me in some certain way. I'm not directly linking back to the pages because the images are all located on fetlife. If you are on fetlife and would like the links to the pages, please email me your fetlife name and i will supply the links. This image, taken by TheHammer, showcases bondage and nipple play.    This image, taken by IceFoxx, showcases pony play.    This image, taken by HorseMan919, showcases control. 

30 Days of Kink: Day 6 Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy. Uhm... I guess they have to do with pony play mostly. I've been talking to @Atticant way too much and he's got me all intrigued about breeding in pony play. I think it would be incredibly hot to be tied down and hobbled and force "bred" by a male human pony stallion. At this time, i don't know any real stallions that i could play this way with though. Guess the other stuff is pretty standard, gangbang stuff, stranger encounters. Stuff that is actually realizable now that i have my very own "stud farm." Haha, love it.

This isn't a cop out, i legit don't recall having a "first kinky sexual experience." My first encounter with CurtisMercury was a threesome with Kamm and it wasn't particularly kinky, just really sexy and fun. It kind of just very slowly developed into D/s play.  I had to ask Kamm to get more D/s-ey.  Although if we want to go back really far... I did tie up my high school boyfriend with a dog collar.

Oh jesus it's February.  Hi everyone. I've been way slow to do stuff here mostly because i have been working so much. I've got a new, fantastic job that i'm enjoying. Unfortunately we're a bit under-staffed so i don't seem to have a lot of energy left over from work to put into the blog. That said. I recently managed to finally untangle myself from the clusterfuck that was my last job. I am ecstatic. No obligations to that job at all, anymore. I also looked up some of the laws and things. Exboss is doing some illegal shit. Fun times. Anyway... On the adgenda for this month is the following: More 30 days of kink Toy review: Njoy pure plug (medium) Dark Odyssey Winter Fire -- our first big weekend event Rope stuff -- we're doing more of that. I'll do some write ups and stuff.  I'm currently topping and bottoming. Kamm likes this ;) Four things seems reasonable. Of course i doubt my ability to function fully for a bit after Winter Fire but you ...

Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hinted at your kinks? I did tie a high school boyfriend to a bedpost with a dog collar but... I don't think that really says anything about me. All the cool kids were doing it. The short answer is no, i didn't become cool until my early 20s.

Funny story, i didn't actually discover i was kinky. Kamm helped me. Kamm was into BDSM and Dominant submissive (aka D/s) dynamic stuff before i was.  A good friend of ours got us onto the website fetlife. Fet is basically facebook for kinky people, it's one of my favorite websites. Through there we found an event that was happening on his birthday.  For various reasons i wanted to give him a really  awesome birthday and thought this could maybe be fun. Of course i was terrified to go, but i did anyway.  Once we were at the party (after a scare with the really loud doorbell and some trashcans outside) i saw a lot of people playing with rope. Rope seemed like something that i could get involved in. That party was the first time i was ever tied up and i fucking loved it. Fun chest harness, some work on my legs. The person who was topping me did try to suspend me but not very successfully, but that was ok.  All in all, i haven't been involved in the BDSM lifestyl...

List your Kinks If I were to link my fetlife page here (which isn't going to happen, sorry readers), my fetish list goes on for miles.  I've got a lot of stuff that interests me and I'll copy and paste some of the list for you guys to look at. And remember, this is the short version of the list. " i love you, but i will hurt you." "slut" as a term of endearment, a firmly gripped neck a hand on the throat anticipation being mindfucked to the point of tears being the wolf to catch red riding hood being told i'm a good girl blindfolds collar and lead/leash consensual nonconsent control crying crying doesn 't mean you have to stop... double vaginal penetration fucked senseless till you can't make words fucking marines hitachi knife play knives can cause and solve all of my problems marine corps marine gangbang military men in uniform = meltdown mind fucks pony play petplay pushed to the point of tears sadism sens...

Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us. I identify as a submissive (currently) although I see no plans for it to change.  Ideally, I'd like to see myself topping (although not dominating) for certain types of play.  Mostly with knife play, needle play, stapling  and possibly some decorative cutting.  Blood doesn't bother me. I am a submissive. I refer to myself as a lifestyle submissive because I don't think I have a dominant bone in my entire body and I am ok with this. I get exactly what I want out of submitting to the right people. I'm quite outspoken and I describe myself as (borderline) obnoxious sometimes. It's in jest...mostly. I think I'm too headstrong and afraid to be a slave. Submitting still gives me the power to stop or change a scene or dynamic if something is pushing the "bad panic" bu...

The 30 Days of Kink meme is something I stumbled across (thanks @ ShortBassist ).  I'm going to partake and have begun setting up the entries.  I'll be posting all 30 days eventually.  It's 30 questions about kink and how you identify with it.  Prompted questions, which I love. Also, apparently the IRS is allowing transgender tax payers who have had sex reassignment surgery to deduct it from their taxes. Click here for full article .  Short, sweet, simple. Gotta love it.