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I won't make out with you because i don't want to *give the wrong impression*. I won't make out with you because i consider that a very close intimate act and prefer only to do it with those i have plans on getting more intimate with later. I feel that lately people have been misconstruing my actions, and my words, and it is something i've found rather unsettling. People making up relationships when there are none, or assuming friendships when (to me) i clearly would have not used that label. I try to be clear. Sometimes to the point of being offensive, with my words, my sentences, my syntax, to make sure my exact, actual point gets across. I don't play with peoples' emotions. I don't sit here, planning on harming people. I'm a physical masochist not an emotional sadist. I have triggers, fears and issues just like everyone else, i don't think i'm exempt from being told i'm acting like an ass, or genuinely apologizing for my behavior o...

Hey everyone, sorry for the lack of updates. There wasn't a lot going on in May and now June is going to be insane. I'll try to do write ups in between things. This month we have the following: Private Event (KBW) this weekend. Private BBQ (PIBBQ) Sunday  Private Event (EL) next weekend, also Fathers Day. DO Fusion the week after. Krakens Lair the week after Fusion So this month will basically be a whirlwind of debauchery. I can live with this.

As someone in a poly relationship, i hear all the time about how important communication and honesty is. It's beaten into our heads over and over again. "Problem? Talk about it." Sure, it makes sense, it's logical, it's what people should do. So then, why do people have such a hard time being honest? I'm going to say this very plainly. The truth is always better than a lie. As far as i'm concerned anyway. Just be honest, especially with your friends. This isn't always about romantic relationships, poly or otherwise. Friendships, play partnerships, they're all types of relationships. Don't want to hang out? Awesome. Say so. Don't make excuses. I get that people are busy, or have things to do, or are feeling not too social that day. Don't want to fuck? Awesome. Say so. Don't leave me wondering if i'm some sort of sexual predator because you say that you want to get intimate and because I trust you, I believe y...

Created some pin designs yesterday since i had some plans change. I'd been talking to @Subatomic17 and @Tilari about them for a bit. I may design a few more but i submitted these two designs to the printer yesterday, i'll update when i hear back. They'll be available in my Etsy shop when they arrive.

This is probably going to encompass a lot of things other than *just* went on a Winter Fire. I think Winter Fire was a culminating event for me. Kamm routinely points out that almost every scene i do pushes my own personal boundaries, and for some reason i don't actually think about that a lot. I haven't even been here for a year, i entered the scene on May 21, 2011, Kamms birthday. I was afraid of everything! I was afraid of the doorbell that Kamm rang to get us into the PlayHouse that very first time, so scared i jumped and knocked into the trashcans at the door and scared myself *again*. Now look at me. I'm a badass. But not as badass as Kamm... He got fucking abducted. Winter Fire gave me a lot of input on the direction in which i'd like to grow as a submissive. I still see myself as a submissive (with a curious, sly, bratty side) and maybe a little toppy, for rope especially, but the type of play i'd like to get into is a lot clearer now. I want...

He herp'd when he should have derp'd. *Back to your regularly scheduled blogging shortly.

For the first time since the 1920's the definition of what rape actually is has been updated! This is fantastic news. The definition of rape now applies to people of any gender! Not just those female bodied!  See the full article at the New York Times here . U.S. to Expand Its Definition of Rape in Statistics By CHARLIE SAVAGE   Published: January 6, 2012 WASHINGTON — The federal government is changing its longstanding definition of “forcible rape” in compiling national crime statistics — expanding both the definition of victims, to include males, and the types of sexual assault that will be counted in the Federal Bureau of Investigation’s Uniform Crime Report . The new definition, which has been in the works for several months and was formally announced by the Obama administration on Friday, will replace a narrower definition of “forcible rape” with one that includes, among other things, forcible oral or anal penetration. The narrower definition, which is lim...

I found this article some months ago and was recently reintroduced to it. My last entry had to do with women related things, let's focus on what goes on inside the brains of us very lovey ladies and woman-identified peoples.  The full original article can be found here on KateHarding.net and I recommend every single person that comes to my blog go over there and read it (or read excerpts here). Gentlemen. Thank you for reading. Let me start out by assuring you that I understand you are a good sort of person. You are kind to children and animals. You respect the elderly. You donate to charity. You tell jokes without laughing at your own punchlines. You respect women. You like women. In fact, you would really like to have a mutually respectful and loving sexual relationship with a woman. Unfortunately, you don’t yet know that woman—she isn’t working with you, nor have you been introduced through mutual friends or drawn to the same activities. So you must look fur...

I forgot it went from October to November, whoops. I've been working a lot on trying to get new content added so I can update throughout the "busy holiday season" and whatnot.  It's just hard to not post stuff immediately because it's so cool.  Been working like nuts lately to get stuff done for all my works, as I have several actual jobs. In theory I'll have even more fun stuff to update because I will be finally getting into pony play. I am very excited. I'm really excited, i saw the page view count hit 4,000 this morning which really tickled my fancy. I love knowing this information is getting around the Internets, filtrating through the systems. And here, take this . Oh, and don't forget, I'm @indeykink on twitter.

This concept is something I see all the time.  Not just with swingers but with almost any single man I talk to.  If I am not their cup of tea (or more usually, if I am not interested in them sexually) they always go for the "other hot girls" question. "Do you have any hot friends that you think would like me/would be interested in me/you could introduce me to?" Insert any variation of that question here.  Somehow, guys think it's a good idea to pester her about her single female friends, or her hot swinger female friends.  If you have any respect for yourself or the girl you're with. Don't ever ask one of these questions. Now I shall explain to you why you should not do this.  It's insulting. Also, girls aren't really into setting their good friends up with creepos they don't know very well.  Introducing "you" to one of her girlfriends means she's vouching for you; that you aren't creepy, or a douche bag or an ass.  She ...

As you've probably noticed... I keep changing the bracketed title up at the top. That's because I've got a four second attention span and I want to make it an ongoing gag to change it to whateverthefuck I want and just enjoy it. If you've got ideas tweet them over to me (@indeykink) and I'll change the title up. This very special sleep deprived episode of the EWA blog is about names and who knows them and what they are. I've got a bunch of names. One of them is my legal name, one is a scene name, one is an artist name, one is a pen name, it goes one.  My legal name does not go here. My pen name is Jaine Lane, all my modeling stuff goes under that. My artist name also doesn't go here, but if you hunt real hard (or ask real nicely) I'll offer it up, and then of course there is my scene name; indey. The reason for so many names is because they are all linked to different things that have different levels of transparency. I don't want my family to ...

I know I already have a post talking about piercings, but I don't go into changing the sizing of those piercings there.  I've been stretching my nipple piercings (you read that right) for a few years now and wanted to talk about the process. Stretching a piercing is the act of enlarging the fistula (piercing path) to be able to wear larger gauge jewelry.  It's a long and involved process that can involve a lot of back-tracking.  There should be little to no actual pain or blood associated with stretching. If you're in serious pain, or bleeding, here's a hint; You're Doing It WRONG . A little bit of stinging is normal. Get your jewelry.  Make sure it's measured and clean.  I clean using dial and warm water. I don't necessarily get my stretching jewelry autoclaved (new piercing jewelry is always autoclaved).  When it comes to stretching, you want a lot of lube.  I recommend oils, since they don't evaporate and generally don't cause allergic r...

Congratulations to all the same-sex couples enjoying their first day of legal marriage in New York! The picture to the right is Niagara Falls all rainbowed up for the celebration. I believe the original picture is actually from Lance Bass's twitter account. Neat :) I'm getting some updates together for next month, I've got quite a few stories from events we've gone to this month.  Things include service submission (for D, not me) knife play and ropes (for me, not D) and exploring sexuality, etc etc etc. I'll get it together and make it happen.  I'd love some input for the next kiriban number and prize!  Also, readers, question me! I love talking about my own experiences but doesn't that get boring for y'all to read? Or no..? Anonymous questions can be sent to my email; eroticwetatomic@gmail.com

 So... The following is a word for word IM conversation I had with someone on a dating site who was trying to speak to me for a few days, I didn't even correct my spelling mistakes, it's that wurdfurword.  Generally, I put up with a lot of shit, but when I get uncomfortable I say something. I say something because it is fully within my right to inform someone who is speaking to me that they are making me feel ill at ease.  Normal people would apologize and stop doing whatever it was that they were doing.  On the internet, people have a different idea of what an appropriate response is. Some guys seem to think the easiest way to get into a girls pants is to beat them like they were a baby seal. Some girls might enjoy the attitude, but I'm not one of them.  I'll reiterate.. I'm on dating websites to meet people and fuck them. The hard work has already been done! All they have to do is behave themselves. D thought I should include more personal stories (don't w...

For those of you in the United States, a major holiday is coming up; Independence Day. Please remember to drink responsibly, sleep somewhere if you have to. DUI's aren't worth it.  Also please remember to make sure noise-reactive pets are locked up safe and sound.  Leash slips and escapees because of firework scares are frequent for this holiday.  Animals get scared and bolt, going much farther than they normally would because of fear.  Animals generally don't know the way back home.  If you've got a noise-reactive animal you're worried about schedule a vet appointment for some sedatives or try one of the products on the market made for this very issue; the thunder vest. We'll be back to your regularly scheduled sex commentary on Tuesday. Have a good holiday everyone!

Friday June 24th New York voted to allow same-sex marriages.  NY is now the largest state in the US to legally recognize same sex unions. Congratulations! Here is an article in it's full form from the New York Times.  Click here for the full article. Bolded sections below are my own adding.  This proves that politicians can have their personal beliefs but also do the right thing when it comes to their constituents and what the people want.         ALBANY — Lawmakers voted late Friday to legalize same-sex marriage , making New York the largest state where gay and lesbian couples will be able to wed and giving the national gay-rights movement new momentum from the state where it was born.        The marriage bill, whose fate was uncertain until moments before the vote, was approved 33 to 29 in a packed but hushed Senate chamber. Four members of the Republican majority joined all but one Democrat...

Quick post just to update everyone that I am back from the Godless Gathering PA.0. I survived and had an incredible time.  Met some fantastic people that I'm sad I only get to see once or twice a year.  It was pretty successful. The video footage will be uploaded later.  It will be uploaded to my original youTube channel, and then mirrored at the EroticWetAtomic youTube channel. Also, I have a twitter that I might annoyingly update sometimes; #eroticwetatomic. Just editing the post to announce that the video footage has been uploaded to YouTube under EroticWetAtomic (this attached channel) and FineLineFalling, my regular "G" rated channel. 

D, myself and a few friends attended PRIDE DC yesterday and had a great time. I've got 60something pictures, a link to the album is below.  They were all taken with my droid and unedited so pardon the quality. I did remove some of the terrible ones. I take a mean picture of an arm and the back of someone's head. :) PRIDE DC ALBUM You can click on the "play slideshow"  link on the page if you'd rather view them as a slideshow.

Additional relevant entries will be landing shortly. I'm updaing everyone to remind them of the 1003 pageview kiriban -- see the entry and rules here . I read a fantastic article in the Washington Post today about the phenomenon known as "Slut Walks." They are a new type of grass roots feminist movement (and I do love me some nice, rational feminists). I'll post the entire article down below because I hate when I find things 4 years later and none of the links work anymore.  All the links located in the original article are here as well.  Please disregard the formatting what-the-fuckery, blogger is not enjoying quoting walls of text that will crit you for over 9000. The full original Washington Post article can be found here . SlutWalks and the future of feminism   By Jessica Valenti, Published: June 3       More than 40 years after feminists tossed their bras and high heels into a trash can at the 1968 Miss America pag...

It looks like I'm much farther along the road to becoming self-employed than I thought.. On 5/24 I was informed by the owner of the store I work at that the location would be closing for good on 5/31. This one-week-notice thing is besides the point, but obviously living paycheck to paycheck I need some source of income.  I have snagged one client in which to do work for (the kind of work I went to college for, not being an escort you pervs ;) ).  This client is pretty awesomely crazy; he's got SO much work I could work 40 hours a week for the next two years straight and maybe get 75% of it done. As of 6/1 (today) the store is still open but the "new owner" is nowhere to be found. I'm not holding my breath. I have some other stuff lined up and I'm thinking about going back to school etc.   What I'm trying to say is that my life is kind of in transition right now, I will be working both from home and from "work" but still trying to have some ki...