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30 Days of Kink: Day 9 & 10

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

Copping out on this one, because i literally don't have one. Rhianna's S&M is the only BDSM related song that i know about. So... We'll go with that one? SURE.

Day 10: What are your hard limits?
There we go, something i can actually talk about. Hard limits...Hmmm... I've actually got a writing on this.  I break my limits up into two kinds of limits: soft limits and hard limits. Soft limits are things i'll consider doing with specific people, but not things i'm really into. Hard limits are the NOPES of my BDSM life.

Hard Limits:
  • The "usuals" (scat/children/animals/amputation/death)
  • Oral sex related extreme gagging/vomit.
  • Anything vomit related.
  • Ingesting things not meant for human consumption.
  • Electrocution/electric play involving piercings or insertable items (piercings, butt plugs, etc).
  • The use or insertion of speculums. This includes oral/spider gags.
  • Drowning
  • Fire play
  • Tickling. Fuck that shit.
  • Bugs/insects/things that people commonly mistake for horrible insects.
  • Most animals--this is only because you can't really control them. You can use a trained dog for intimidation, but i'm not into being a shuntzhund demo bottom. (Please note, i am not talking about bestiality here -.-;).
  • Piercing through breast tissue (skin is fine, going through the tissue is not).
  • Glitter. NOPE.
  • Sounding
  • Food or food items in my pussy or ass.
  • Molesting or otherwise licking/touching/poking my eyeballs.
  • Leave the indent above my trachea alone. This is a bad trigger.
Soft Limits, aka testing limits:
  • Water bondage - this is not drowning. But being restrained in/near/around water arouses and frightens me.
  • Cutting play - not to be taken lightly, i would probably only consider this with one of my partners.
  • Permanent marks - self explanatory.
  • Un-adjustible nipple clamps - probably only something i'd do with a few people. My nipples are extremely sensitive.
  • Needle play - see cutting play.
  • Anal sex - Not something i'm big on. This tends to be uncomfortable to me but depending on how i feel i may be able to deal with being penetrated anally.
  • Blood play - please see cutting play
So many words. Hopefully that makes up for day 9's question. 

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