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30 Days of Kink: Dom, Sub, Switch?

Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

I identify as a submissive (currently) although I see no plans for it to change.  Ideally, I'd like to see myself topping (although not dominating) for certain types of play.  Mostly with knife play, needle play, stapling  and possibly some decorative cutting.  Blood doesn't bother me.


I am a submissive. I refer to myself as a lifestyle submissive because I don't think I have a dominant bone in my entire body and I am ok with this. I get exactly what I want out of submitting to the right people. I'm quite outspoken and I describe myself as (borderline) obnoxious sometimes. It's in jest...mostly. I think I'm too headstrong and afraid to be a slave. Submitting still gives me the power to stop or change a scene or dynamic if something is pushing the "bad panic" buttons. Because I'm still so new, those panic buttons are occasionally hit during scenes. I am able to voice if this happens. The act of submitting does a lot for me mentally and emotionally.

Submissives do not have to be doormats.  In my every day life I'm usually the dominant force.  Between Kamm and I, I am definitely the dominant personality.  I make most of the decisions and that works for us, but when I submit I don't make the decisions.
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