But stop touching people without their consent. At the last 2 events I've been two, I've had THREE people touch me, two of them being complete strangers.
Don't put your hand on someone's hip when you don't know them. Hell, don't put your hands on someone elses body or possessions if you don't know them.
Don't stick your head and face on me without my permission when I'm doing sushi table stuff. You want to keep your sushi table, right? I want to keep being a sushi table, but I get way skeeved out when someones face comes at me from nowhere and goes right towards my crotch. Not cool. You know what's even shitter? When I call someone on doing that and then they just walk away without saying anything. If someone else does this again, venue management WILL be talking to you and if I'm up for it, I will also be saying something to you because you need to be called on your shitty behavior. I do not care if you're new. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Don't poke someone in the stomach or side when you don't know how they're feeling or if they're ok with that.
Sometimes even people who LOVE being touched by others just have a time where they don't want to.
To those of you who have been asking before you hug me or something, you guys are THE BEST. When I'm socially overwhelmed (like I was at Krakens) it's incredibly helpful and it tells me that you respect my space and therefor respect me and my feelings. It gives me good feels when this happens.
I'm hypersensitive. When sound is already a problem, touch will compound that, in a bad way for me. Sometimes even just wearing clothes of a certain fabric will cause me problems (regular stiff 100% cotton shirts are out of the question). I'm not saying these things because I'm a bitch, I'm saying these things because I'm tired of other people taking liberty with my body and my feelings.
If we have ongoing implied consent, YOU WILL KNOW. If we don't, just ask. That is ALL I'm asking for.
Edited to add:
I am NOT referring to polite excuse me or shoulder taps or the accidental butt to butt sliding that goes on when you're at a crowded event or there are large groups of people. If I'm in someones way, a shoulder tap is totally fine. It's not intrusive and I'm probably in the wrong being in the way anyway. I'm talking about people grossly taking advantage of space or exposed skin or people.
Don't put your hand on someone's hip when you don't know them. Hell, don't put your hands on someone elses body or possessions if you don't know them.
Don't stick your head and face on me without my permission when I'm doing sushi table stuff. You want to keep your sushi table, right? I want to keep being a sushi table, but I get way skeeved out when someones face comes at me from nowhere and goes right towards my crotch. Not cool. You know what's even shitter? When I call someone on doing that and then they just walk away without saying anything. If someone else does this again, venue management WILL be talking to you and if I'm up for it, I will also be saying something to you because you need to be called on your shitty behavior. I do not care if you're new. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Don't poke someone in the stomach or side when you don't know how they're feeling or if they're ok with that.
Sometimes even people who LOVE being touched by others just have a time where they don't want to.
To those of you who have been asking before you hug me or something, you guys are THE BEST. When I'm socially overwhelmed (like I was at Krakens) it's incredibly helpful and it tells me that you respect my space and therefor respect me and my feelings. It gives me good feels when this happens.
I'm hypersensitive. When sound is already a problem, touch will compound that, in a bad way for me. Sometimes even just wearing clothes of a certain fabric will cause me problems (regular stiff 100% cotton shirts are out of the question). I'm not saying these things because I'm a bitch, I'm saying these things because I'm tired of other people taking liberty with my body and my feelings.
If we have ongoing implied consent, YOU WILL KNOW. If we don't, just ask. That is ALL I'm asking for.
Edited to add:
I am NOT referring to polite excuse me or shoulder taps or the accidental butt to butt sliding that goes on when you're at a crowded event or there are large groups of people. If I'm in someones way, a shoulder tap is totally fine. It's not intrusive and I'm probably in the wrong being in the way anyway. I'm talking about people grossly taking advantage of space or exposed skin or people.
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