Big Coyote Energy

As a cis-female who has played the online dating game for a while, i feel like i can say with certainty that there are some serious pitfalls that some people fall into when trying to find a partner(s). Straight guys, this is for you. If you're looking for a partner online via; OKCupid, AdultFriendFinder, Fetlife, Match.com or any other community site or dating site, you may at least want to pretend you've read this. Or, read it for real and glean information and get results. Like real results that find you awesome people. Step 1. Read profiles. Seriously. Read profiles. Step 2. Read profiles . I needed to say it again. Step 3. Read the profile again. Maybe even a 5th time. Step 4. Messaging Identify people that stand out to you by reading profiles. Tailor individually made messages of appropriate length. I would say 2-10 sentences is enough. Don't spend eons on a message and then get heartbroken when you don't hear back from "her." Let me in on a little se...

Hey, i did this. Facebook open for anyone who enjoys the blog or is ok with kinky/fetish stuff on their FB page. Friend me :) http://www.facebook.com/jaine.lane.1

This is a new class that i'm putting together. Love it or hate it 50 shades is bringing a ton of new people into the scene. If 5 0 Shades of Grey is your first foray into the wonderful exciting world of BDSM, you may find yourself asking more questions than the book can answer. This class is for you. A judgement free zone of education and discussion that is open to all newcomers. Why does 50 Shades of Grey seem to be so frowned upon in the community? I keep hearing and reading a lot of terms that I'm not familiar with, can you talk about them? Are the representations of BDSM in 50 Shades accurate? Are they safe? How can I get more involved in the BDSM community? *More information may be added later

As someone in a poly relationship, i hear all the time about how important communication and honesty is. It's beaten into our heads over and over again. "Problem? Talk about it." Sure, it makes sense, it's logical, it's what people should do. So then, why do people have such a hard time being honest? I'm going to say this very plainly. The truth is always better than a lie. As far as i'm concerned anyway. Just be honest, especially with your friends. This isn't always about romantic relationships, poly or otherwise. Friendships, play partnerships, they're all types of relationships. Don't want to hang out? Awesome. Say so. Don't make excuses. I get that people are busy, or have things to do, or are feeling not too social that day. Don't want to fuck? Awesome. Say so. Don't leave me wondering if i'm some sort of sexual predator because you say that you want to get intimate and because I trust you, I believe y...

I've been trying to write on the blog about FetFEST since Monday, and that's not happening. Let's try a different approach... --- FetFest, like other large events seemed to be a culminating event for me. I worked through a lot of shit, one of my regrets is not working through, and accepting more things. I never realized how much the storm at Fusion12 impacted me. Having a full 3 nights and 4 days to play and connect really showed me what this is about. My attitude coming out of FetFest12 is entirely different, probably because i didn't spend 48 hours trying to trick myself out of having a panic attack. Daddy and i arrived at camp Thursday evening and set up the tent in the dark. It was fun, and we finally got everything set up around 10pm. Friday was spent running around doing volunteer work and helping TNG Village come to life, taking time to swim nude. It was strange, while i had a welcome overabundance of amazing friends and chosen family i was lack...