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Congratulations to all the same-sex couples enjoying their first day of legal marriage in New York! The picture to the right is Niagara Falls all rainbowed up for the celebration. I believe the original picture is actually from Lance Bass's twitter account. Neat :) I'm getting some updates together for next month, I've got quite a few stories from events we've gone to this month.  Things include service submission (for D, not me) knife play and ropes (for me, not D) and exploring sexuality, etc etc etc. I'll get it together and make it happen.  I'd love some input for the next kiriban number and prize!  Also, readers, question me! I love talking about my own experiences but doesn't that get boring for y'all to read? Or no..? Anonymous questions can be sent to my email; eroticwetatomic@gmail.com

The official birthday of the EWA blog was July 12th, and I totally spaced.  I was going to bake it a little cake and sing happy birthday and even get it a present that it probably wouldn't like and would return anyway. Like a sweater or a tie or something. That's cute, a blog in a tie. ..Does the blog have a gender? I wanted to thank anyone and everyone who has viewed or commented or stopped by.  It's really been a great year so far and I think the next year will be even better.  Ideally, I'd be getting some user input (hint hint guys) to make the blog more enjoyable. I know at least a few of you that read this thing, you've got questions, ask them! Help me make this thing fantastic! Oh and I'll be making the next kiriban soon, I need you guys to help me decide on the prize. Love you all! XOXO P.S. The cake is a lie.

I've actually seen this website before, and thought it was a good resource.  It's been updated since I last saw it as well.  The Polyamoury Resource . I'll show you a little tidbit from the site. Take a look, it's good, I promise. But if you love someone, you shouldn't want anyone else. That's a common idea, but it doesn't really hold up in practice. Many people believe that a person who has multiple loves can't give their "whole heart" to any person. The belief goes that if you love one person, you can express your love wholeheartedly, but if you love multiple people, your love is divided up and is therefore not as deep. This is based on the "starvation model" of love--that is, you only have a limited amount of love, and if you give your love to one person, there is none left to give to anyone else--so if you fall in love with another person, you have to "pay" for it by withdrawing your love from the first perso...

Those of you who have met me in person know that I absolutely rave about my Hitachi Magic Wand.  I was nonorgasmic with partners until I got this thing.  They tend to be a little on the pricy side (50-75+) but I was browsing around on FetLife and found a website selling them for just under 40.00.  Shipping in the US is about 7 dollars so it really is a good deal if you're in the market for one.  You can find the website here . More real updates coming soon, D and I just had a fantastic couple of evenings.

Someone special was kind enough to send me an invite to google+ so I am now on there.  Please feel free to add me to a circle if you want even more entertainment (JaineLane, eroticwetatomic@gmailcom). I'm also on twitter and update frequently @eroticwetatomic. More interesting posts soon.  D and I are attending a few events this month and next so there will be plenty for me to talk about. :) Readers if you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask to email them to me, I'd like to start adding relevant data to the blog based on user input. Questions can remain anonymous, not a problem. What should I do for the next kiriban? Apparently t-shirts are unpopular. Next number and prize, give me some ideas people! Halp!

 So... The following is a word for word IM conversation I had with someone on a dating site who was trying to speak to me for a few days, I didn't even correct my spelling mistakes, it's that wurdfurword.  Generally, I put up with a lot of shit, but when I get uncomfortable I say something. I say something because it is fully within my right to inform someone who is speaking to me that they are making me feel ill at ease.  Normal people would apologize and stop doing whatever it was that they were doing.  On the internet, people have a different idea of what an appropriate response is. Some guys seem to think the easiest way to get into a girls pants is to beat them like they were a baby seal. Some girls might enjoy the attitude, but I'm not one of them.  I'll reiterate.. I'm on dating websites to meet people and fuck them. The hard work has already been done! All they have to do is behave themselves. D thought I should include more personal stories (don't w...

 Before I lay down a tale here, I should mention that this is the infamous D.  Not the also infamous Jaine, but the guy who is tied to her in her tales of hedonism. That out of the way, I would like to share an experience that I think would be helpful here. Jaine and I, as you faithful readers here know, have partners that we see on a regular basis. That also said, an update is warranted here. Reason being, there is a situation that I think all can learn from. So here it goes: Before I lay down the story, I should mention that Jaine and I have different tastes when it comes to our partners. She seems to enjoy the more physical aspects of the lifestyle than I do. A kind of fuck buddy deal. Where I enjoy a more romantic side of dating outside of our partnership. It is a fact that we are very aware of, as well as a fact that we are very good at compartmentalizing. We know that while she is happy having her fun in her way, I have fun in mine. The relevance to my tale is that...

For those of you in the United States, a major holiday is coming up; Independence Day. Please remember to drink responsibly, sleep somewhere if you have to. DUI's aren't worth it.  Also please remember to make sure noise-reactive pets are locked up safe and sound.  Leash slips and escapees because of firework scares are frequent for this holiday.  Animals get scared and bolt, going much farther than they normally would because of fear.  Animals generally don't know the way back home.  If you've got a noise-reactive animal you're worried about schedule a vet appointment for some sedatives or try one of the products on the market made for this very issue; the thunder vest. We'll be back to your regularly scheduled sex commentary on Tuesday. Have a good holiday everyone!

 I came across this Ask Amy article and it made me chuckle a bit, because this really does happen.  I'm sure that D and I have lost friends because of our relationship type.  That's why I blog about it, to put a few more drops of information into the sea of knowledge that is the internets. Dear Amy: My husband and I became friends with a couple a little over a year ago. We had some nice times together, including dinners, movies, etc. They are very nice, own a lovely home and have two beautiful children who seem well cared for. Well, recently this very nice couple informed us that they are "swingers"! To say that my husband and I were shocked is an understatement. My husband and I have decided that we will no longer socialize with them, because we feel so strongly about their lifestyle. My question is why? Why would a married couple who claim they love each other have sex with other people? Amy says: I shared your letter with Peter Sagal, author of ...