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A Step into kink: Experiencing Shibari

So, on rapture da--I mean D's birthday (May 21st) we talked about what he wanted to do for his birthday, and anything he wanted (basically) was up on the table.  Since we were unable to find another girl for a FMF threesome (what we did for him last year for his birthday) he found a kink event at a club in one of the major metro cities near us that he wanted to go to.

I'm confident when i want to be, but I'm incredibly nervous when I'm meeting new partners to getting into new sexual exploits.  We walked up to the door and I bumped into the trash can when D rang the doorbell, both made really loud noises which scared the shit out of me. At least he thought it was funny.

We met a lot of wonderful people (but for the sake of anonymity I won't go into descriptions).  We were showed around to the different areas of the club and spoke to several different people about how they came to the club and how long they've been into the BDSM lifestyle. The club had several different play areas including a cross, suspension area, medical play area, places to watch, places to tie, a sex swing and more stuff! It was awesome.

We had mentioned in passing that it was D's birthday, and he ended up with some birthday floggings (from R and from a very hot  woman whose name I don't think I got, but she was fantastic, she did herself up in the most wonderful rope work).  I has also mentioned that I kind of wanted to try some rope play. A little while later the most gracious R showed up and asked me if I wanted to be tied up this evening.  I agreed and we toddled off to the suspension area.  I'm not claustrophobic, but I'm uncomfortable being bound fully. I prefer to keep my hands and feet free (you know, for running away).  R made me a chest harness and a leg harness and then suspended me for about 4 and a half seconds. I have issues with having my center of gravity moved around so suspension, I think, is not for me.  I would be willing to try a different type or position though just to make absolutely sure.  I did enjoy being tied up though.

There was nothing painful about being tied, but it did leave marks.  It's kind of erotic to have marks like these and not have to go through excruciating pain to get them.  Pain, flogging, etc is not my thing (believe me, I've tried) so I had just negated myself to one of those people who wouldn't get into BDSM. It was nice to find something I could participate in as well.

Try it and see as long as you can find someone with the know-how and experience.  Shibari and any kind of rope or bondage play can be dangerous if you are bound by someone who does not know what they are doing. Try to find a rope club or a BDSM club in your area.
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  1. AnonymousJune 11, 2011 at 3:36 AM

    You and D should...no no wait -need- to see this:

    http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/pillow_book/trailers/10899165

    In fact it is The Pillowbook by Peter Greenaway, don't even watch the trailer just go see it.

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  2. Ren LaineJune 11, 2011 at 10:37 AM

    I will look into that, thank you!

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