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Single Male Curiosity-Viewer Question

This  question was emailed to one of Kamm and I's accounts on a separate website,  in order to keep the identity of the asker a secret I've removed any identifying information and the website name itself.  Kamm and I aren't actually married yet, but since everyone refers to us as a married couple we just let it slide.

I am new to [this website] and I am curious about a few things, sorry to bother you, just consider it a newbie question. If you, as a married couple, are open to straight men joining you, what about that excites you, as a man? I noticed a lot of Ad's from young couples asking for playmates for their wives, I never considered that agreeable, does that not bother either of you? I am just asking some couples near my home location cause the idea of making love to another mans wife concerns me, like I dont want to get shot or anything, you know? And if that is something you as a couple are ok with, how does a man like myself ask another man to make love to his wife? Is that something normal for you in your lifestyle? Thanks again for your time. 
- A New Guy
  
      Hey ANG, no problem answer newbie questions, everyone has to start somewhere right? Anyway, regarding the extra straight guy for a couple thing; For us, inviting another guy to bed (straight or bisexual, or even gay, as that's happened once as well) is about having a good time. For straight or bi guys, the husband in this case LOVES watching his wife with another man. He's a voyeur, she is an exhibitionist, so together it's a recipe for a good time. 

If everyone is ok with it, it's gone from a voyeur situation to an actual threesome, with all three people involved. What happens from then on is more about what everyone's comfort level is at (can there be DP? are the guys ok being close enough to each other for DV? Or is it better to just keep everyone to separate sides and keep the lady in between?). For two perfectly straight guys, hotwife, or wife-swapping kind of behavior works just because the guys want nothing to do with each other sexually (which is perfectly fine). Think of it less as "making love" and more as "fucking" because that's how we usually are with partners. She doesn't make love to any of her guys, really. Everyone's just really in it for romping around and having a good time. 

How would you go about getting involved with a couple: It's hard for single guys, that's the long and short of it. It's hard for single guys because there are more of them available than couples or single females so it turns into a demand and supply issue. Your best bet is to let interested couples contact you. Feel free to send out some emails regarding interest, but don't get discouraged when they aren't replied to. >>>>Read through profiles<<<<<, don't expect responses unfortunately. Also, don't put up with shit you shouldn't have to put up with. If a couple wants YOU to take them out and wine and dine them AND pay for a hotel room, tell them to bugger off. 

Good, quality single guys exist in this lifestyle, we've found quite a few. Couples and singles know they are out there and look for them, IF that is what they are interested in. She has a blog she writes on the subjects of swinging, nonmonogamy, etc in general (with a smattering of other stuff thrown in as well). Would it be ok if she posted your question (any personal or identifying information removed of course) to the blog? She uses it as a resource to help others begin their journey of sexual adventures. We can give you the link if that's something you'd be ok with. Good luck ANG! 

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