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50 Shades of Shut the Fuck Up

I'll preface this by saying i have NOT read any of the books in the 50 Shades of Grey series.

One more time. I have NOT read these books and while i did make what was an honest metal attempt to fit it into my schedule it is not going to happen. I am not an emotional masochist.

50SOG does is not a book about BDSM, sorry to break it to you. It is Twilight fan-fiction. I have read most of the books in the Twilight series, because there just isn't a lot of quality werewolf shit around these days. They were also not something i would consider "good" writing. Sorry Twilight fans.

50SOG is a book that describes a horribly dysfunctional "BDSM type" relationship. It goes on to talk about how people who are into these kinds of things must have been damaged at some point or another because "normal" people aren't into this sort of shit. The girl feels like she can "fix" the boy of his horrible ways. THIS IS NOT HOW RELATOINSHIPS WORK.

If you're new to BDSM or you're a hot housewife thinking about getting into it, find some good useful resources that won't damage you before you begin. It's nice that 50SOG has the average person talking about BDSM, but it will not be helpful if it starts causing more problems in the long run. I may eventually pick up the books, but i really have no need. I'm involved in the legitimate lifestyle. I'm not sitting around possibly harming people by tying them up with cotton clothing line... I wish i could convey the noises i was making into text. GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACK may suffice.

Safety. Trust. Consent. Awareness. Education. Those are what BDSM is about. LEARN from legitimate resources. Don't use 50SOG as a resource for anything other than maybe a thing to rub a couple out to.

Edit: I'm not crazy.  Clinical psychologist agree 50SOG is bad for BDSM. 

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