I Want To Like Tuesdays

Nothing is inherently bad about Tuesdays, don't get me wrong. They follow Mondays, precede Wednesdays, you know, the usual. Tuesdays are Daddy's date night with his Mistress. Tuesdays were my date night too, but not anymore it seems, for a list of reasons that shouldn't be as complicated as it is.

I've been looking for another relationship in all the wrong places, People who aren't comfortable with poly, people who aren't emotionally available. People who aren't into BDSM.

I wanted to put what i was actually looking for in a concise, easy to read format. Also, i always wanted to talk about what i could offer in a relationship, because they're two way streets you know.

What am i looking for anyway?

I guess the easiest label to put on it is secondary... Only because i have a primary. Kamm (Daddy) and live together and plan on getting married. While we may be looking for room mates in the near future, i'm not necessarily looking for my partner to move in with us. Although... That is a totally hot pipe dream to have. Triad with two guys. Yeah I'll take two to go please.

I want emotional investment. I'm hoping to find someone i can love. Someone who i can tell i love them, without them being the bad kind of upset about it. I want to see this person at least once a week barring unusual circumstances. I want sex, both vanilla and kinky. I want you to go to events with you. I want to do stupid vanilla things like go shopping for towels or go out to dinner or do laundry. I want to share a part of my life.

Obviously this will be kind of limited. I can only write so much about a hypothetical person without it beginning to sound pathetic. Qualifications are must-haves. Maybe i can negotiate, maybe i can't. I'd vote on no. Hopes are superficial little things or trends ive noticed in who i'm attracted to. I've had really good luck with slender, sexy switch boys who know how to put me in my place, and i love it.

Qualifications

• Be local (within an hour driving distance) to me.
• I'm currently looking for cis-men.
• Sex. Emphasis on vaginal penetration and oral. Anal isn't really a thing for me.
• Dominant, Top or Switch to me. I'm a submissive, i can't realistically see myself being fulfilled by a person who is submissive with me. If you're a sub looking to explore your Toppy side, lets talk.
• Willing to meet Kamm//Already know Kamm. Kamm meets anyone that wants to play with his toy.
• Close to age to myself
• Accepting of poly. I don't think i can deal with someone i have to educate about poly or non-monogamy.
• Attend some scene events. I do the majority of my play in private it seems, but i'm often at events with Kamm or friends. I'd like to play there sometimes.

Hopes

• Military
• Tattoos
• Piercings
• Glasses
• Geeky
• Likes cats
• Slightly older than me
• Familiar with poly/non-monogamy
• Into, or looking to get into pet play
• Thinking about incest play (an older brother type relationship sounds totally hot to me).

So... What can i offer?

I feel like this section is important. Like in D/s, what are the parts offering to each other? In order to get something out of it, i have to put something in. Obviously i'm familiar with non-monogamy and BDSM. No need to spend time explaining to me what compersion is. I'm extremely forgiving. I'm very flexible. I'm a red head with pale skin and i've got big boobs if you're into that sort of thing.

If you're interested...

PM me, but only if you can be polite, and tell me a little about yourself. I'm not looking for NSA sex, it's not my thing. I'd prefer comments here. I can browse profiles and take a look at yours. I'd like to feel more like a person and less like a piece of meat.

Know i don't do coffee or drinks dates generally... I'll make exceptions but let me offer. And only after we've chatted for a bit.

Understand i'm not about to run through a bunch of people to find someone, i prefer things happen organically. I'm open to forming new play partnerships and new friendships with people i click with, but i am busy. And i am unable to force a connection. Be as honest with me as i plan to be with you. Don't get mad or upset if i politely decline an invitation or say i don't think we really connect in the way i'm looking for. It's not a slight against you.

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There you have it. It's all out in the open. Kamm knows i'm doing this and wishes me luck in my endeavor to find someone who actually wants an emotional relationship.

To my current partners, play partners and more, both Fetlife-official and not, i love you. Each in your own way, i love you. Friend type love, or people love or the love a puppy feels for someone who plays with them and keeps them safe. I know better than to ask you for these things, they were explicitly forbidden, or they just wouldn't work, or they'd mess with existing dynamics. I like things the way they are for all of us. I'll never discount you. You are some of my most important people.

So, to conclude... Anyone know any hot marines?