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I've been told that my consent isn't enough.

I was asked to put this in a writing:

There was more of this that I wanted to address, but people have already gotten there. The one thing that is missing is this:
These people are not healthy. Even if it is consensual. Consent doesn't make it OK to do harm.

This is another way to say "bottoms have no agency." Or "bottoms are damaged people." STOP IT. JUST STOP. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.

Consent is exactly what makes it okay to do harm. Stop telling people that consent isn't enough. Because if consent is not enough than we are not adults and have no right to partake in any of this. I'm upset and frustrated at this train of thought being continued.

It's been MONTHS of this; Bottoms can't consent. Bottoms can't this, or can't that. Bottoms are damaged people. Etc, etc, etc.

Consent is what we do. Consent is what we deal with. If you aren't ok with someone else giving consent for an act, then you know what you do?

You fucking leave.

You take your two feeties,  your toys, your stuff and you turn around and walk away.

If you have a question about consent violation, or abuse? Find the appropriate person, persons or group to take it to. But stop disguising it as this fear mongering, submissive/bottom-you-can't-handle-yourself bullshit.

 Figure out your actual problem and go address that. Stop blaming edge play for abuse. Edge players aren't any more damaged than non-edge players. Wanting to engage in edge-play is not a mental illness.
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