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My feelings on 50 Shades of Gray

Plumbat is a friend of mine and her words on 50 SoG sum up my thoughts and feelings perfectly.

You can read her full blog entry here, I would highly recommend it. 

The relationship between the two main characters is abusive. It’s characterized by manipulation, misuse of power, emotional coercion, and disregard for consent. Christian Gray is a goddamn textbook on how to be a terrible dominant and a terrible partner in general. It’s a travesty that their relationship is being portrayed as a romance, rather than as a cautionary tale.
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