Big Coyote Energy

I know i've addressed this before, but this is the new topic of interest flying around the fetlife, so i figured i would address it. I know i have other things i need to write about (hello Charm City Fetish Fair) but i'll get to those next week. Lets talk about safe words. We'll start with a basic definition. A "safe word" is a word or phrase than when said in the context of a BDSM scene, will stop the scene. This can be something general like "red" or it can be something that would not generally come up in the context of a scene ie "fruit basket" "platypus" or "Fluggaenkoecchicebolsen." Words like "no" "stop" and "oh fuck" are poor choices for safe words, as they are generally uttered during scenes anyway. In theory they sound like a great idea. Of course safe words have their place in the context of BDSM. The problem with them is twofold. 1. Safe wording can be seen as a "...

I get that male sexuality is something to be embraced. Guys start playing with themselves from the time they figure out they have something "down there." Us vagina-havers aren't always so familiar with our bodies. This is certainly something that should change if you are comfortable with the idea of masturbation.  Everyone loves orgasms, bla bla bla. That said. I don't really masturbate. I don't like it. It's like a chore for me. Masturbation is the last option before insanity for me. There is a reason for this and it has taken me years to figure out. Sex is an experience for me. Sex is something i do with someone else (or a few someone elses). Masturbation is something i do, to myself. There is no one else. Either i make up the fantasy or nothing happens. Either i dominate myself, or nothing happens. Honestly, nothing is better in most cases. I am incapable of dominating myself. I'm a submissive, dammit. There is very little difference to me between...

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This article was written by Silk, a friend of mine. Daddy and i had just been discussing some of these exact issues yesterday on our way to work. Silk has given me permission to post the article he wrote (thank you). Please keep in mind when attending parties, events, etc, what the rules are for dealing with rape, sexual assault and other consent violations at the venue are. If you aren't sure then ask. You have a right to know how your safety is being looked at by the people hosting parties.  Why Would Somebody Not Report Sexual Assault/Rape In The Scene? There are many, many reasons why people may not report such terrible physical and emotional violations of their person. Adding that it happened with somebody from or in the scene makes it even more difficult. In the vanilla world alone 54% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police. (RAINN, 2012) It is estimated 97% of perpetrators won't spend a day in jail. (RAINN, 2012) So why not report both i...

The problem with drama isn't that it exists. Drama is drama, it sucks, it's annoying, it happens. This we know. Think about the scene as a conveyer belt. Something happens at some point on the belt, people freak out, yell, scream, divide, do whatever it is that they do, and then they move on. As new people get into the scene (or hop onto the conveyer belt) they begin to hear bits and pieces of the old stories and the old drama, but they can't access the old part of the conveyer belt. They can't see the actual happenings for themselves. But they begin to form opinions based on hearsay or partial facts, or worse, get shrouded under the influence wings of the people who have "caused problems" before and are changing the stories to make themselves no longer the villain. I have read no less than 3 writings today alone on issues that are (to the best of my knowledge, and my knowledge is pretty fucking extensive) absolute idiocy at worst and grossly misinformed a...

What are your views on the ethics of kink? "The difference between assault and BDSM is consent." That entire sentence sums up my views on the ethics of kink and BDSM. Consenting adults can engage in whatever behaviors and activities they prefer, as long as their activities do not impact persons who have not given their consent. There are fetishes that some people have that other people may not be into. I am a very "your kink is not my kink, but you are welcome to enjoy your kinks" kind of person. There are some kinds of play i'm not comfortable witnessing so i will remove myself from the area so others can continue their fun.

Winter Fire was like a blur. It came and went so fast and i miss it a lot. I can't believe it's been a week already. It's like something that roared past that i got to touch for a fleeting few moments and like that it's gone. Now i'm just looking forward to Fusion, Fet Fest and a few other events (kinky and non-kinky) we're planning on attending. *As per usual, some of this may be paraphrased or out of general order.  If you were involved in some of this or are a close friend, please PM me and give me the correct order of events. Friday Friday Daddy, Israfela and Liberteeny arrived at the overflow hotel around 6 o'clock. We dropped everything at the room, while Daddy took the car back to the metro to park it. We hit registration and vending for a bit and then went back to the room to shower and get sexy. I had a volunteer shift at 9 as SOR monitor in Sex O Rama. I put on my sexy see through red and black dress, black garters and striped bla...