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I am not bisexual...

I'm beginning to get a feel for the annoyance and frustration that some people go through when trying to identify themselves on websites or in surveys. I'm not heterosexual, I'm not homosexual and I'm not bisexual.  I'm pansexual.

Wikipedia defines pansexuality as:
 the potential for sexual attractions, sexual desire, romantic love, or emotional attraction, towards people of all gender identities and biological sexes.[2][3] Self-identified pansexuals may refer to themselves as gender-blind—that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others.[4] The Oxford English Dictionary writes that pansexuality "encompasses all kinds of sexuality; not limited or inhibited in sexual choice with regards to gender or activity."[5]
The concept of pansexuality deliberately rejects the gender binary, the idea that there are only two genders,[6] as pansexual people are open to relationships with people who do not identify as strictly men or women.[7]
 A lot of people I've spoken to don't even know what pansexual means, let alone have an option for it on forms or places where people are supposed to identify themselves.  I have to "round down" to bisexual which is kind of a lie because women only do it for me rarely. I hate having to label myself as bisexual because it's a lie, and especially on the swinging websites it makes me seem like a unicorn and I am NOT a unicorn for male/female couples (more on that in a later post).  I tend to go for masculine men, androgynous men and women and gender queers, or something. Standard feminine women aren't usually my thing (though stranger things have happened).

Basically, it's about the person than their sex or gender or chromosome assignment or what they're packing.  

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