Big Coyote Energy

Boot blacking, at it's core, is a very simple process. Your basic boot black kit consists of a few general things: A tote or box to carry your items  Spray bottle, filled with water, small travel sized.  Black and neutral wax polish in your preferred brand Black and neutral cream polish in your preferred brand A leather conditioner  A leather-safe soap  Brushes [soap brush or sponge, a brush for the cream polish and a brush for the wax polish] A few rags for cleaning Buffing cloth, or preferred shine tool  Your kit can grow as you do. My kit is larger than this and includes a few extra items I've found to be very beneficial. My preferred wax polish is Lincoln, I usually have at least a black and a neutral. My preferred cream polish is meltonian and I usually have a few different colors in my kit. I'd recommend starting small and seeing what you need. If you have boot blacks in your area, you can always ask them what they prefer. I have several co...

I'd love to add the information and photos to my Hitachi Magic Wand Guide for the wireless hitachi units. However, I do not currently have the funds available to buy one for myself. If there are any toy shops or vendors who would like to donate a unit so I can update my most popular blog post of all time on this blog, I would truly appreciate it. I can link back to your site or add a banner for your store or business or both, or really any other number of possibilities. I am also looking for a counterfeit HV-26O unit to add as well. If you happen to have one, once again, please let me know. Let me know what you would need. You can email me directly at EroticWetAtomic@gmail.com

I've always wanted D/s. I identify as a sadomasochist because it's easier than actually admitting that the number of people I would actually submit to is minuscule and most people just honestly don't fit the bill. Doing the 'polite female' thing is just better for everyone. Then I met someone. Whom I told over and over "I'm not emotionally available." "I'm broken." "You should find someone less damaged." "You're too nice to deal with this much baggage." Because pushing away someone who was genuinely nice to me, and interested in me, was  easier  than facing my feelings about what had been going on in my life, and what I wanted out of my life and what I would have to go through to be able to trust a new person in my life. He didn't leave. He sat with me while I cried, this mostly-stranger. He bought me dinner. He let me cry on him. He didn't question me when my social anxiety and general I'm-still-w...

The entry below is a response I wrote to a person inquiring about a type of edge play I've done in the past; consensual mysogeny.  Some of it has been slightly edited to make more sense to a general audience, but I thought it would be a good way to start the conversation. What do you do when you encounter a type of play that you find uncomfortable within the general scope of the community?  You're going to find a lot of stuff in the scene that is going to make you uncomfortable. There are still things I don't want to witness or be a part of, and that is where an amazing phrase called "My kink is not your kink, and that's OK" comes in. You're absolutely free to acknowledge and avoid types of play you don't favor. Everyone does it, everything has something, no matter how mundane you think it may be, or how revolting or unsettling it may be.  This area (the one I live in) is very accepting of a lot of types of edge play that other areas aren't. ...

Dear fellow white people, You do not get to play the "I'm not racist card" just because you aren't out in the streets lynching people of color. This is the minimum bar to clear for not being a complete waste of life. Do better, I know you can. I have the faiths in you, you got this. Go do the thing. You do not get to invalidate the experiences and feelings of people of color. You are not a person of color, therefor you do not know what it is like to be a person of color. Please keep your "but I've been oppressed, etc" talk to the conversations where that information is relevant. (Pro tip: this is not the conversation for "but I've been oppressed because of; weight, gender, sexuality, dress style, disability, etc. People of color are all of those things as well and experience those types of aggressions and issues on top of the racist undertone that permeates our entire society}. Making the world "colorblind" does not fix racism an...

I stop updating for a few months. Sorry guys, my distraction right now is a puppy, and he's really great and he's been really great for me. Daddy said back in March we could (finally) get a dog and I found the perfect little mutt for us. He was 16 weeks old when we got him so he needs lots of attention. Also, some of the stuff I'e blogged about previously, the break-ups I went through last year really took a toll on me. I'm not proud of that, but I haven't been playing because it's actually really hard for me to trust people enough to actually want to play or have sex with them. It's something I'm working through but it's not easy and there is no manual. I knew one of these people for four years, and they spent four years lying to me. It's a high hurdle to cross. Daddy and I will be back at Dark Odyssey FUSION, hosting Cigars Boots & Chocolate as usual. I am really excited for that. We'll be at camp all week too, from Wednesday throug...

Five people have told me "But I thought you'd like it!" In their own defense after they violated my consent, or had done something in play that we did not discuss. I'll speak about different things that have happened to me over the course of my involvement in the BDSM/Kink lifestyle. I've been active in the scene for about 4 years. I'm leaving the locations and names private so that I can cross post this to fettle. Feel free to PM me for the fet names of who these people were, except 2. I never got their fet name. The first time I ever encountered someone who did something non-consensually to me, I was at a public dungeon party at (now defunct but renamed) venue. I was negotiating a knife scene with someone I had never played with before, and part of our negotiation was them asking me the question "Are you ok with knives around your pussy?" I was, and informed them that I was fine with knives near my crotch. During this scene, this person took ...

This blog explains consent really, really well. You should read it. If you’re still struggling, just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.  You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “omg fuck yes, I would fucking LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you! * ” then you know they want a cup of tea.

But stop touching people without their consent. At the last 2 events I've been two, I've had THREE people touch me, two of them being complete strangers. Don't put your hand on someone's hip when you don't know them. Hell, don't put your hands on someone elses body or possessions if you don't know them. Don't stick your head and face on me without my permission when I'm doing sushi table stuff. You want to keep your sushi table, right? I want to keep being a sushi table, but I get way skeeved out when someones face comes at me from nowhere and goes right towards my crotch. Not cool. You know what's even shitter? When I call someone on doing that and then they just walk away without saying anything. If someone else does this again, venue management WILL be talking to you and if I'm up for it, I will also be saying something to you because you need to be called on your shitty behavior. I do not care if you're new. Do not pass go. Do not col...

Plumbat is a friend of mine and her words on 50 SoG sum up my thoughts and feelings perfectly. You can read her full blog entry here , I would highly recommend it.  The relationship between the two main characters is abusive. It’s characterized by manipulation, misuse of power, emotional coercion, and disregard for consent. Christian Gray is a goddamn textbook on how to be a terrible dominant and a terrible partner in general. It’s a travesty that their relationship is being portrayed as a romance, rather than as a cautionary tale.

I know I haven't written in a long time. Longer than my typical winter hiatus. My usual break is caused by the usual work and holiday clusterfuck, no personal time, mandatory work over time. This break was partly caused by that, and mostly caused by something else; people being cowards. People not handling their own shit. Me not being able to speak for myself, or just not realizing fast enough. I thought something was wrong with me, for a long time. Maybe I was too queer, or too queer looking. Or too fat. Or not sexual enough. Or too sexual. Or a bad partner. Or ugly. Or my hair was too short.  Or my house wasn't nice enough..  Or especially, that the kind of play I'm into and the kinks I have aren't ok and I should feel bad for being into them. That was a really big one... I'm not saying these things because I need reassurance or support in not thinking them. I'm saying them because this is the part of relationships people don't talk about. I don't ...

I’ve still got most of my clothes on. You’re standing over me, i’m on my knees looking up at you. You want me to watch you  be terrible to me. You want me to make eye contact. You want me to tell you what a worthless piece of meat i am and that i deserve everything you’re going to give me. You’re going to use me as a sloppy wet fuckhole for your pleasure. You don’t give a shit if i like it or not, it isn’t about me. This is all about you. What you want. What makes your dick hard.  You cradle my face in your hands, i’m teary eyed just from terror alone. You haven’t done much to me but thats about to change. The soothing touch starts to tighten until you’re compressing my neck. My vision starts to tunnel and i struggle to get away, but i can’t. I grab at your forearms  and tug but i don’t have enough leverage. I lean into your legs and you let go.  I lean against you as i catch my breath. I can feel your weight shift, i know you’re coming after me. I reco...