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Hello readers, i'm so sorry it's been a couple months since i updated last. I seriously try not to let that happen. A lot has happened since i last updated, Daddy and i moved to a new place (which is awesome) work has been insane, we lost a pet and i've gotten back into some other hobbies i'd gotten out of in the last year. But don't worry, there will be stuff coming up in 2013 for the EWA blog. Just stopping in for a  moment to tell everyone THANK YOU so much for almost 20,000 page views. I really appreciate all the support that you guys have given me over the past two years with the blog. I'm so glad that some of the information here has made it to other parts of the internet. I have viewers from all over the world. You guys are great. Thank you.

I found this post on Reddit.com and thought it was exceptionally apt at explaining why unwanted attention is not a nice thing. http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/124ej8/one_of_the_most_perfect_and_eloquent_explanations/

Dear gender identity, Hi. It's me. It's been a while since we talked. I know i've been kind of standoffish lately, but that's mostly because of you. I don't know what to do with you. Can you maybe, get a grip? I always thought i was straight. Then there were girls i liked. Then there were non-gender-binary people that i like. But mostly i like men, and by like, i mean fuck. I don't usually care what they identify as, but biocock (cis-cock?) is basically the top tier of what i need to be fulfilled sexually. So... Help me out here. Am i straight? Am i pansexual? Do i have to give a fuck? Sincerely, Management.

As a cis-female who has played the online dating game for a while, i feel like i can say with certainty that there are some serious pitfalls that some people fall into when trying to find a partner(s). Straight guys, this is for you. If you're looking for a partner online via; OKCupid, AdultFriendFinder, Fetlife, Match.com or any other community site or dating site, you may at least want to pretend you've read this. Or, read it for real and glean information and get results. Like real results that find you awesome people. Step 1. Read profiles. Seriously. Read profiles. Step 2. Read profiles . I needed to say it again. Step 3. Read the profile again. Maybe even a 5th time. Step 4. Messaging Identify people that stand out to you by reading profiles. Tailor individually made messages of appropriate length. I would say 2-10 sentences is enough. Don't spend eons on a message and then get heartbroken when you don't hear back from "her." Let me in on a little se...

Hey, i did this. Facebook open for anyone who enjoys the blog or is ok with kinky/fetish stuff on their FB page. Friend me :) http://www.facebook.com/jaine.lane.1

This is a new class that i'm putting together. Love it or hate it 50 shades is bringing a ton of new people into the scene. If 5 0 Shades of Grey is your first foray into the wonderful exciting world of BDSM, you may find yourself asking more questions than the book can answer. This class is for you. A judgement free zone of education and discussion that is open to all newcomers. Why does 50 Shades of Grey seem to be so frowned upon in the community? I keep hearing and reading a lot of terms that I'm not familiar with, can you talk about them? Are the representations of BDSM in 50 Shades accurate? Are they safe? How can I get more involved in the BDSM community? *More information may be added later

As someone in a poly relationship, i hear all the time about how important communication and honesty is. It's beaten into our heads over and over again. "Problem? Talk about it." Sure, it makes sense, it's logical, it's what people should do. So then, why do people have such a hard time being honest? I'm going to say this very plainly. The truth is always better than a lie. As far as i'm concerned anyway. Just be honest, especially with your friends. This isn't always about romantic relationships, poly or otherwise. Friendships, play partnerships, they're all types of relationships. Don't want to hang out? Awesome. Say so. Don't make excuses. I get that people are busy, or have things to do, or are feeling not too social that day. Don't want to fuck? Awesome. Say so. Don't leave me wondering if i'm some sort of sexual predator because you say that you want to get intimate and because I trust you, I believe y...

I've been trying to write on the blog about FetFEST since Monday, and that's not happening. Let's try a different approach... --- FetFest, like other large events seemed to be a culminating event for me. I worked through a lot of shit, one of my regrets is not working through, and accepting more things. I never realized how much the storm at Fusion12 impacted me. Having a full 3 nights and 4 days to play and connect really showed me what this is about. My attitude coming out of FetFest12 is entirely different, probably because i didn't spend 48 hours trying to trick myself out of having a panic attack. Daddy and i arrived at camp Thursday evening and set up the tent in the dark. It was fun, and we finally got everything set up around 10pm. Friday was spent running around doing volunteer work and helping TNG Village come to life, taking time to swim nude. It was strange, while i had a welcome overabundance of amazing friends and chosen family i was lack...

Hello readers, sorry for the lack of updates, stuff has been kind of crazy with the absolute shitstorm of drama on fetlife and in my local community recently. I do plan on addressing at least part of it, but i most likely won't be responding to any comments on the matter. I don't argue. I converse. Had a great night last night, Daddy caned me and made me cry and it was great. We're about to get lunch and go swimming now. :3

So, with FetFest coming up, Daddy and i are still a little short on supplies after our tent got destroyed at Fusion. If you aren't interested in supporting, please spread the word if you can. :3 To remedy this, i'm selling some prints. Get pretty shit you can put up in your house, AND i'm going to donate part of the sales to the NCSF! You can see all the my available images here. Most everything is available. Prints are matte/luster or metallic glossy. 8x10 ($35-->2.00 to NCSF) 11x14 ($40--> 5.00 to NCSF) 16x20 ($55-->10.00 to NCSF) These will be drop shipped to you. Payment through PayPal, in person (cash or check) or i can run credit cards through SquareUp on my phone. If you're looking for framed prints, i can do that too. Send me an email or a PM. Shipping is included in the above prices, framing is not. If you're interested, send me an email with the following information. Send it to: EroticWetAtomic@gmail.com . Nick name (the na...

Nothing is inherently bad about Tuesdays, don't get me wrong. They follow Mondays, precede Wednesdays, you know, the usual. Tuesdays are Daddy's date night with his Mistress. Tuesdays were my date night too, but not anymore it seems, for a list of reasons that shouldn't be as complicated as it is. I've been looking for another relationship in all the wrong places, People who aren't comfortable with poly, people who aren't emotionally available. People who aren't into BDSM. I wanted to put what i was actually looking for in a concise, easy to read format. Also, i always wanted to talk about what i could offer in a relationship, because they're two way streets you know. What am i looking for anyway? I guess the easiest label to put on it is secondary... Only because i have a primary. Kamm (Daddy) and live together and plan on getting married. While we may be looking for room mates in the near future, i'm not necessarily looking fo...

If Dan Savage has taught me anything, it's that people cheat and really it is something that we should all kind of get over. I understand, if you make a monogamous commitment you should keep it, but people are people and people make mistakes. People cheat for all kinds of reasons. Your spouse and you are in a sexless marriage and you still have a sex drive (which is not something you should be ashamed about). Your spouse has some sort of condition that makes sex painful, embarrassing or downright unfeasible. You have kids and you don't want to leave your significant other because other than the lack of sex, the marriage works. You no longer have intimacy in your relationship and you crave it, like any sane human being. I get it. I completely understand. I don't really think people that stray or cheat are terrible human beings. BUT.... I refuse to closet myself. Being your "behind closed doors" kind of girl is in absolutely no way appealing...

What’s your favorite toy? Hands down? My Hitachi Magic Wand. That thing is an absolute life saver. I didn't have orgasms with partners (except Kamm after a year) without that thing. If we're talking BDSM specific toys, my collar. It is an amazing tool of control. I love when (people who have permission ) people grab my collar and use it control me, choke me or otherwise keep me under wraps.  My collar is from Ring Of Steel and i love it to pieces. I've worn it constantly since 2/10/12 when Kamm put it on me.

Post a kinky image you find erotic. I chose three images to showcase three different kinds of fetishes.  All of them are extremely erotic to me in some certain way. I'm not directly linking back to the pages because the images are all located on fetlife. If you are on fetlife and would like the links to the pages, please email me your fetlife name and i will supply the links. This image, taken by TheHammer, showcases bondage and nipple play.    This image, taken by IceFoxx, showcases pony play.    This image, taken by HorseMan919, showcases control. 

So, went to the lady doctor (OB/GYN) for a follow up yearly. Last year my insurance changed for the better, all my STI screening was included, they said. I ran everything in February the last time i was there. Today, i went to have them screen everything again so i could get my 2x yearly STI screening to keep me and my sexual partners safe. Like any responsible non-monogmous person would. Dr. comes back into the office and informs me that my insurance will not cover STI screening blood work more than 1x in a 12 month period, but if i were experiencing symptoms of anything, then they would cover it. As i was not symptomatic for anything, they couldn't "fudge" it. Though since my GYN kicks ass she can write off Chlamydia and Gonorrhea in the coding for a routine pap smear anyway. But that's only two infections. What about ALL THE OTHERS? Do insurance companies not how how STI's work? Are they magically not informed that a vast majority of people are ASYMPTOMATIC f...

So... Fusion. That happened. It happened hard. And this is gonna be loooong and disjointed like most of my entries. Others seem to be more efficient in getting their feelings out. Reading their experiences, their scenes, their torment, their fears, it has an energy. I'm not a person for "energies" or "feelings" but something in me is tied to camp. I left part of myself there, and i found parts of myself that have been buried for a long, long time. Parts of me i believe only Kamm has ever known to exist. The parts of me that truly know fear, panic and exhaustion.  Fusion really was a good event for me, but there were parts i would prefer to never experience again, namely the storm. Friday ; On the way up to Ramblewood we stopped at a Tobacco outlet and a great dollar store to pick up some cigars for Kamm and a cooler for drinks. And i finally replaced my knife. Daddy and i arrived around 11am met Bettie_Rage at registration.  Friday it was over 90 degrees. N...

30 Days of Kink: Day 6 Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy. Uhm... I guess they have to do with pony play mostly. I've been talking to @Atticant way too much and he's got me all intrigued about breeding in pony play. I think it would be incredibly hot to be tied down and hobbled and force "bred" by a male human pony stallion. At this time, i don't know any real stallions that i could play this way with though. Guess the other stuff is pretty standard, gangbang stuff, stranger encounters. Stuff that is actually realizable now that i have my very own "stud farm." Haha, love it.

I'll preface this by saying i have NOT read any of the books in the 50 Shades of Grey series . One more time. I have NOT read these books and while i did make what was an honest metal attempt to fit it into my schedule it is not going to happen. I am not an emotional masochist. 50SOG does is not a book about BDSM, sorry to break it to you. It is Twilight fan-fiction. I have read most of the books in the Twilight series, because there just isn't a lot of quality werewolf shit around these days. They were also not something i would consider "good" writing. Sorry Twilight fans. 50SOG is a book that describes a horribly dysfunctional "BDSM type" relationship. It goes on to talk about how people who are into these kinds of things must have been damaged at some point or another because "normal" people aren't into this sort of shit. The girl feels like she can "fix" the boy of his horrible ways. THIS IS NOT HOW RELATOINSHIPS WORK. I...

We just got back from a very wonderful time at @Lynk and @Ever's house.  Now for the things left to do before... FUSION! Sunday: Relax. Lots of laundry.  Watch Mongrels. Avoid cave crickets. Monday: Work. Shoe shopping. Tuesday: Work. Date night. Either seeing @Formerly Thor or going to a possible BBQ at @HarshJudgement's place with @Beemo @M0co. Wednesday: Work. Grabbing the last of the things needed for Fusion. Packing for Fusion. Thursday: Work. Rope Bite. Friday: Go to Fusion!

So, the theme of Fusion is apparently rape. I've got sex on the brain. General Eat and sleep Use ALL the sunscreen. Get NONE of the sunburn! Swim Spend time with all my partners (Daddy, CurtisMercury, Lynk and HarshJudgement. That's right, i lumped you in :p ). And new potential play partners :3 Scenes Some kind of frisking or military or police related thing. The idea of this is so absolutely hot. Some rough body play, restraint, forced sexytimes. Yup. *currently being negotiated x2* Being co-topped. Fits into just about anything. Puppy play. Lots. Maybe with other puppies. I love playing with other puppies and littles. Needle play, if i'm up for it :3 Partial suspensions where my chest is *not* the main suspension point. Think legs, hips, etc. I will not be doing any full rope suspensions. I may consider certain types of partials not listed here, but i don't really feel like passing out again. Oh, and all the rope. Taken at knife point. Getting rapey ...

Seriously. I'm going to start actually looking for another romantic relationship. I am not looking to replace my relationship with Kamm, at all, but i would like a secondary partner. For the past year i've wanted it. I looked for it in FormerlyThor and that isn't a reality that would work for either of us unfortunately. As much as i wish it could be. I figured i'd speak about it, since i think Kamm is the only one thats really known this except for CurtisMercury whom i believe i've spoken to it about. I seem to have exceptionally good luck with switchy tattooed military boys who like to put me in my place... Or sadistic kinksters. Switch/top/dominant; not all the time but for me. I'm not really sure i could be fulfilled in a relationship with someone who would also want to be submissive with me. D/s play is almost integral for a relationship for me at this point in time. I am a submissive, i don't top or switch. I would be very open to...

As much as i don't like to admit it, i am fallible. I mean, i'm human, and humans are extremely fragile, physically. And mentally... And emotionally. But generally, i tend to be in control of those things. Last month was a difficult month for me. May generally seems to be a stressful time in my life, but it was extra stressful this year. I don't intend to go into details, but the nut-shell version is that i ended up at a funeral (memorial service) this weekend that i wasn't prepared to go to. A very dear family friend of ours passed in a tragic accident over Memorial Day weekend. I wanted to talk about how fragile life is. I recently linked an article on twitter in which someone had killed themselves accidentally in a BDSM related death . Things are called "accidents" for a reason. No one means for things to go wrong, or for something to happen, but things do happen. Please keep up to date on safety measures and protocols. Keep a first aid kit in your toy...

So, i had a good Friday night with HarshJudgement and Kamm. Ended up with some predicament bondage, my neck is actually tied to my ankles. He pulled out the TENS unit after this. Good times ;) I got some rope even though we didn't go to Shibiarcon haha! Win.

I've had a lot of people, anyone from close friends to new acquaintances ask me about how Kamm and i manage a successful poly relationship. I can't help but smirk, at least on the inside because i don't consider myself successfully polyamours. SHOCKER. I know, read on, there is a good explanation. I consider myself functionally non monogamous. This is about my relationships with non monogamy, i will try to get Kamm to write something as well. This will have a lot of me/i in it. This is because the best way for me to educate others is to talk about my experiences, things i know inside and out. For most people, either you are open to non monogamy, or you aren't. People who are predisposed to non monogamy can make monogamous commitments and keep them, but they may not necessarily be ecstatic about it. It's about self control. This is not what this writing is about. Basic Points; Non monogamy really isn't *that* much more different than monogamy, it...

I wanted to do about sixteen other things, but it seems the blog is in much need of an update. May marks my one year "kinkaversary" or the one year anniversary of me getting into kink. It's come with a lot of growth and change and self reflection. I really can't imagine my life without BDSM anymore. It has really become an integral part of who i am, and i think before this, i had a lot of empty space in my life and as stupid as it sounds in my heart. It is exceptionally fulfilling for me to have the kind of life i have. My beloved Kamm, my three understanding and sexy play partners; FormerlyThor, CurtisMercury and Lynk. And HarshJudgement, wherever he fits in ( :p ). I have many facets; submissive, owned property, puppy, pony, bottom. I have many amazing mentors and friends; Ever, SaintNicky, Liberteeny, TheHammer, Perfectly_Bound, Tatsujin_Paris, M0co, Beemo, FelisLeo, Lochai, Subatomic17, Bettie_Rage, Atticant, Moose, Shangrilaaah, Silk. (If you weren't me...

One of my play partners, CurtisMercury,  knows i'm very particular about having my feet touched. My toes are a giant issue especially. He pulled out his 3mm jute just for some special fun. Kamm took this picture of CurtisMercury caning my feet after tying my toes up.  I actually like my feet caned. It's weird, but the sensation is so strange. The tops of my toes not so much... This is what happens when i'm good. Damnit!  My plan is to post some more "hey this actually happened" to me sort of things, along with some pictures. Not sure if i'll be blurring faces or anything yet but i'm not sure who really cares. Also, i won the raffle for the NCSF that BGSC was holding. So, now i've got my very own BGSC print! Getting it framed shortly.  Uh BGSC link might not be safe for work. I know such awesome people. :D

HarshJudgement was actually the first person to introduce me to these kind of clamps (pictured left). I wouldn't get anywhere near them before because a vast majority of clamps are not adjustable. This is fine if that is the kind of play you like, but for most people with pierced nipples things like clover clamp can pinch the jewelry and cause you all kinds of pain you weren't intending to experience. I've found that people commonly use tile clamps and other sorts of working hardware clamps as well . Pros : Adjustable - you can set exactly how much pressure how you  want being put on the nipple. Made out of stainless steel. Very easy to clean so you can use them with multiple partners. Few parts make them very sturdy and difficult to break. Well priced for what you get. Easy to use. Bottom can wear them for a long time. Cons :  When tightening, you can pinch yourself or whoever you are putting them on. Can be slightly difficult to get over piercings...

This is a hard thing to concentrate on while watching South Park. I was going to do client work, but i think i need one day where i don't have to do anything. So i'll blog. Hi :3 April 15th was Kamm and i's 5th anniversary. :) It has been such an amazing 5 years. Most of it is detailed here actually.  Saturday was Betty_Rage's birthday and we ended up at Six Flags with her, HarshJudgement and a few other people. I don't ...rides but i still had a good time. I went on the merry-go-round and on the bumper cars. And held everyones stuff when they were on the roller coasters. I've got my weird adreneline seeking behaviors, i'll leave the amusement parks to the professionals. Also, i got to hang out with Beemo (Nagabot here on blogger) EVERY DAY of the weekend! We're forever alone! Not a whole lot of kink, gotta switch it up every once in a while.

They arrived! :D Want a set of your own? See my Etsy shop .

Both designs were accepted by the printer, i'll have them in next week. Excited! Also, if you love me you'll follow me on Twitter; @EroticWetAtomic

Created some pin designs yesterday since i had some plans change. I'd been talking to @Subatomic17 and @Tilari about them for a bit. I may design a few more but i submitted these two designs to the printer yesterday, i'll update when i hear back. They'll be available in my Etsy shop when they arrive.

Grab your first Hitachi, or a back up. Whatever number you're on they're $10.00 off through Newegg with free shipping until 4/9.  If you haven't read my review i highly suggest taking a look.  I love this thing and will be ordering a second one to have as a spare.

Group shot from DOWF12 by Scott Church. More of the backlog of stuff i should be uploading. Here blog readers, have a professional picture, bitches. Click for big.

I guess last weekends theme was "Fuck it, i'll try it!" Not even joking. I started off the weekend friday DCDungeon for Fet101. CurtisMercury was demoing floggers and whips. I've tried floggers before. Big, suede, leather floggers curtsey of Silver-Switch at DOWF. Curtis had with him a signal whip. The difference between a signal whip and a bull whip is a handle. A signal whip is braided all the way to the end. A bull whip has a distinct, gripable handle. It changes the way you use the whip. In a signal whip, the fall (end piece) is usually braided into the leather. The falls are replaceable, but with a signal whip they have to be braided back in. In a bull whip, the fall is a separate piece that is easy to switch out. This is easy if you're playing rough enough with other partners to start drawing blood. The falls are often made out of leather or nylon, neither of which are able to be completely disinfected once contaminated with blood or other body fluids....

On the Baltimore TNG Steering Committee. I've mentioned TNG groups in the blog before, they are groups located around the world that serve the kink community in the 19-35 age range. They help younger kinksters get acquainted with the scene and offer educational classes, resources, happy hours and events.

 A friend of mine sent me this article, and like usual i get to sit here and get pissed off about it. At least the media is catching on. Really. I'm female, not inferior. More updates on this later, i've got to get to work. Subject for Debate: Are Women People? I’ve always assumed that women are fully autonomous human citizens—who vote, even!—but now I’m not so certain By Jessica Winter | @winterjessica | March 7, 2012 | Read more: http://ideas.time.com/2012/03/07/subject-for-debate-are-women-people/#ixzz1qKadUKgz All my adult life, I’ve been pretty sure I’m a sentient, even semi-competent human being. I have a job and an apartment; I know how to read and vote; I make regular, mostly autonomous decisions about what to eat for lunch and which cat videos I will watch whilst eating my lunch. But in the past couple of months, certain powerful figures in media and politics have cracked open that certitude. You see, like most women, I was born with the chromosome abnorma...

 Taking a page out of Nagabot's book and going a bit more personal on the blog. This was from last Thursday's (3/15) Rope Bite at Chateau Broxy. Hammer likes to tie up pretty girls and do naughty things to them. Kamm wasn't feeling so hot so he didn't come with me. However, i had a great time.  Have i mentioned i like rope? Have i also mentioned stun guns make me cry? Hammer had Perfectly_Bound go grab his "brand new pretty pink toy" i decided to play 20 questions since he wouldn't show me what it was. No wonder everyone laughed when i asked "is it insertible?" He didn't actually hit me with it. That honor belongs to Lynk... Shit. My plan is to add some photographs i have from scenes i've done. Other people may be obscured, but hopefully it won't detract from the images, i just won't post pictures of people without their permission. There is quite a backlog of photos to go through. So with this and the 30 days of kink project i ...

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