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Stopping by the blog briefly to wish all my readers a safe, happy New Year.  Don't drink and drive folks, just get trashed at home where you can't hurt anything except the coffee table.  I am so honored to be able to share my journey with you all.  I'm looking forward to talking and sharing more stories and pictures with you all next year.

I was linked to this wonderful list of blogs made by Red Region Inferno blog. It's got a list of 45 wonderful blogs to read that all seem very sexy. I haven't gotten a chance to go through them yet but at this time of year, it won't happen until the end of January anyway. So while i'm off getting tied up under the Christmas tree, you can either do the same or read something sexy. Happy Holidays everyone, it doesn't matter what you celebrate, just have fun doing it. Don't forget to get under the mistletoe ;)

The state of Virginia is now aloud to discriminate against gays and other potential adopters as well as six other characteristics. Read the full article from the washington blade here . The Virginia State Board of Social Services voted 5 to 1 on Wednesday to allow licensed adoption agencies to refuse to approve adoptions or foster parents based solely on a would-be parent’s sexual orientation as well as six other characteristics.   The board took that action by rejecting for the second time this year an adoption related rule change first drafted in 2009 by state social services officials under former Governor Tim Kaine.   The proposed change called for banning discrimination in the state’s adoption and foster care system solely because of someone’s sexual orientation, religion, age, gender, disability, political beliefs, or family status.   Virginia Governor Bob McDonnell and the state’s controversial attorney general, Ken Cuccinelli, who took office...

Funny story, i didn't actually discover i was kinky. Kamm helped me. Kamm was into BDSM and Dominant submissive (aka D/s) dynamic stuff before i was.  A good friend of ours got us onto the website fetlife. Fet is basically facebook for kinky people, it's one of my favorite websites. Through there we found an event that was happening on his birthday.  For various reasons i wanted to give him a really  awesome birthday and thought this could maybe be fun. Of course i was terrified to go, but i did anyway.  Once we were at the party (after a scare with the really loud doorbell and some trashcans outside) i saw a lot of people playing with rope. Rope seemed like something that i could get involved in. That party was the first time i was ever tied up and i fucking loved it. Fun chest harness, some work on my legs. The person who was topping me did try to suspend me but not very successfully, but that was ok.  All in all, i haven't been involved in the BDSM lifestyl...

Anyone that's spoken to me for any real length of time knows i love three things; ropes, knives and pet play. I experience those in that order. Most of the people i know are riggers (novice, learning and experienced alike) so i get to be part of a lot of rope play and the occasional suspension. i don't have a lot of "successful" suspensions under my belt but the number slowly grows. i love learning about how my body handles the stress and newness of feeling gravity interact differently on my body. How i handle the stress of the ropes pulling, my weight redistributing itself, my top pushing me harder and harder. My body is its own story of what the fuckery at best. Hypersensitivity, ticklishness, etc. i think because of that i'm a more challenging/pain in the ass bottom, sometimes i feel bad for my tops. At least working with different people has allowed me to be able to read myself better. As has looking into a lot of rope-related risk assessment...

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Last night I updated and added some fun stuff for the holidays in the swag store .  Designs have been updated or enhanced for your wearing pleasure :) I've got more entries for the month of December, continuing 30 days of kink, some stuff on caning, knives, and probably more. Short updates, hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving!

List your Kinks If I were to link my fetlife page here (which isn't going to happen, sorry readers), my fetish list goes on for miles.  I've got a lot of stuff that interests me and I'll copy and paste some of the list for you guys to look at. And remember, this is the short version of the list. " i love you, but i will hurt you." "slut" as a term of endearment, a firmly gripped neck a hand on the throat anticipation being mindfucked to the point of tears being the wolf to catch red riding hood being told i'm a good girl blindfolds collar and lead/leash consensual nonconsent control crying crying doesn 't mean you have to stop... double vaginal penetration fucked senseless till you can't make words fucking marines hitachi knife play knives can cause and solve all of my problems marine corps marine gangbang military men in uniform = meltdown mind fucks pony play petplay pushed to the point of tears sadism sens...

I thought I'd take this opportunity to wish those of you in the USA a Happy Thanksgiving, or happy pre-Thanksgiving. Please be safe and responsible, Thanksgiving is the most traveled holiday in the US and there are lots of drunk people.  Friends don't let friends drink and drive, right? :3 Kamm and I celebrated my birthday yesterday and today (since my birthday actually falls the day after Thanksgiving this year, and I hate celebrating it then because no one is ever around).  Kamm spent the last few months making a wonderful birthday weekend for me. There was an incredible co-topping knife threesome scene-thing between him and a friend of ours (whose wonderful life partner gave him the ok to do this).  I was blindfolded for most of it but there were many pokes and prods and bites and squeals. I love knives, so this was absolutely wonderful for me. The next day Kamm took me out and surprised me with a visit from my oldest male friend (OMG We've known each other for OVE...

The full article on MRI of the female orgasm, plus the video can be seen here .  The article and video are both safe for work. This article details how male birth control may just be around the corner. How fucking cool! Click here for the full article .

Dom, sub, switch?  What parts of BDSM interest you?  Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us. I identify as a submissive (currently) although I see no plans for it to change.  Ideally, I'd like to see myself topping (although not dominating) for certain types of play.  Mostly with knife play, needle play, stapling  and possibly some decorative cutting.  Blood doesn't bother me. I am a submissive. I refer to myself as a lifestyle submissive because I don't think I have a dominant bone in my entire body and I am ok with this. I get exactly what I want out of submitting to the right people. I'm quite outspoken and I describe myself as (borderline) obnoxious sometimes. It's in jest...mostly. I think I'm too headstrong and afraid to be a slave. Submitting still gives me the power to stop or change a scene or dynamic if something is pushing the "bad panic" bu...

The 30 Days of Kink meme is something I stumbled across (thanks @ ShortBassist ).  I'm going to partake and have begun setting up the entries.  I'll be posting all 30 days eventually.  It's 30 questions about kink and how you identify with it.  Prompted questions, which I love. Also, apparently the IRS is allowing transgender tax payers who have had sex reassignment surgery to deduct it from their taxes. Click here for full article .  Short, sweet, simple. Gotta love it.

I found this article some months ago and was recently reintroduced to it. My last entry had to do with women related things, let's focus on what goes on inside the brains of us very lovey ladies and woman-identified peoples.  The full original article can be found here on KateHarding.net and I recommend every single person that comes to my blog go over there and read it (or read excerpts here). Gentlemen. Thank you for reading. Let me start out by assuring you that I understand you are a good sort of person. You are kind to children and animals. You respect the elderly. You donate to charity. You tell jokes without laughing at your own punchlines. You respect women. You like women. In fact, you would really like to have a mutually respectful and loving sexual relationship with a woman. Unfortunately, you don’t yet know that woman—she isn’t working with you, nor have you been introduced through mutual friends or drawn to the same activities. So you must look fur...

I forgot it went from October to November, whoops. I've been working a lot on trying to get new content added so I can update throughout the "busy holiday season" and whatnot.  It's just hard to not post stuff immediately because it's so cool.  Been working like nuts lately to get stuff done for all my works, as I have several actual jobs. In theory I'll have even more fun stuff to update because I will be finally getting into pony play. I am very excited. I'm really excited, i saw the page view count hit 4,000 this morning which really tickled my fancy. I love knowing this information is getting around the Internets, filtrating through the systems. And here, take this . Oh, and don't forget, I'm @indeykink on twitter.

This is an important, albeit rarely mentioned issue that I hear about between couples. I just hear about it from women. There are so many sex toys and sex related products that can cause women serious problems ! Yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, vaginal discomfort, allergic reactions, chemical burns... You name it. I recently replied to another blog about issues the author had been having at one point and how to remedy them. I'd like to share the information I shared with her to all of you. This will help everyone's sexy parts stay healthy and sexy longer. :) Now, the advice below is assuming anyone with a vagina that is experiencing chronic yeast infections has seen their doctor and ruled out other issues (PH imbalance caused by; diet, STI, hormone changes, drugs, etc). Also, please keep in mind a lot of yeast infections are not actually yeast infections, they can also be bacterial vaginosis. If you're unsure of the symptoms of each, see your doctor :) The main...

This definition of BDSM comes from wikipedia ; BDSM is an erotic preference and a form of sexual expression involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play . The compound acronym BDSM is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D or B/D), dominance and submission (D&S or D/s), and sadism and masochism (S&M or S/M). BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships , and distinct subcultures . Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are characterized by the participants usually taking on complementary, but unequal roles, thus the idea of consent of both the partners becomes essential. Typically participants who are active – applying the activity or exercising control over others – are known as tops or dominants . Those participants who are recipients of the activities, or who are controlled by their partners are typically known as bottoms or submissives . In...

This will be geared more towards swingers out of default I suppose.  I don't know a whole lot of dedicated kinksters that go unicorn hunting but this will help anyone looking for their mythical bisexual single female. What is a unicorn? The term unicorn generally refers to a single bisexual female that is always down for a FMF (female/male/female) threesome. The reason these women have been assigned the name of a mystical creature is because very few of them exist and they are difficult to find.  Generally, "unicorns" will "love" or "be into" both halves of the couple equally and be a perfect 3 on the kinsey scale (or exactly bisexual). How do we find a unicorn? Finding a unicorn is difficult. The reason for this is simple supply and demand. There are less single bi females looking for couples than there are couples looking for SBF (single bi females).  Unicorns have the pick of the litter as far as sexual partner(s) go.  They exercise that choice...

Normally I don't do off topic posts here but this is sort of an emergency.  A friend of mine is trying to adopt the dog in this article, the dog is in Texas, my friend is in Maryland so obviously some transport is needed. He's not asking for drivers, he's just asking for some donations to help get Max from Texas to Maryland. I've already donated and am asking anyone with even a spare dollar to donate. If you can't afford to donate, please consider spreading the word to those who might be able to help. Click Here To Help Maximus https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=2211812028577&set=a.2071533761708.100538.1645807763&type=1&ref=nf

From the New York Times; article here In an unusual scientific about-face, researchers at Northwestern University have found evidence that at least some men who identify themselves as bisexual are, in fact, sexually aroused by both women and men . The finding is not likely to surprise bisexuals, who have long asserted that attraction often is not limited to one sex. But for many years the question of bisexuality has bedeviled scientists. A widely publicized study published in 2005 , also by researchers at Northwestern, reported that “with respect to sexual arousal and attraction, it remains to be shown that male bisexuality exists.”  That conclusion outraged bisexual men and women, who said it appeared to support a stereotype of bisexual men as closeted homosexuals.  In the new study, published online in the journal Biological Psychology, the researchers relied on more stringent criteria for selecting participants. To improve their chances ...

I've had to address this topic a few times in the last week so I thought I'd put this out there for everyone. :) Please be aware, I'm totally happy speaking about both of these things to anyone, feel free to approach me and ask questions! Now, I identify as both a furry and a pet player. I've found that the easiest way to describe the difference to people who are unsure of the difference is the following. Being a furry is being part of a fandom, a group of people who enjoy anthropomorphic animals (animal people, if you will). Sure there are some people that have fursuits and go to conventions and draw furry porn. I want a fursuit, I'd love to go to a con when I've got the time and I draw a lot of furry artwork and some of it is porn. I generally equate being part of the furry fandom as being part of any other fandom, like trekkies, or cosplayers, etc. You're part of a group of people that enjoy a general theme. Some people sexualize it, so...

Totally dropped the ball on updating for October, there's a few reasons for that; the new job, a death in the family, and general craziness. The next few months through the new year may be kind of sporadic on the updates with the holidays, my b-day and work deadlines, etc. Sorry for the dissapoint, I do have some entries in the works that just need to be polished and finished so I'll try to get those out for the masses ;) Love you all.

Holy Fuck where did September go? Actually, where did August go? That was the last month I really paid attention to things.  I am planning on doing more updates in October but I do have a few distractions. One is a kitten and the other is a new job.  That and Kamm and I spend a lot of time hanging out with friends or going to BDSM/Kink events.  So cool, but so sleepy. You guys missed the kiriban again . I'm beginning to think no one wants free clothing.  I thought people liked free shit but maybe I'm wrong.  I also see that I accumulated two more followers here, hello! As usual, please follow me on twitter @indeykink . I have also started a tumblr for the cats if you're into funny cat things and cute kitties and stories.

Someone linked this on fetlife and I started browsing through it and thought it was fantastic.   Since my goal for this blog is for it to be resource over anything else, I'm going to post their original text along with all the fun links. All the original article can be found here; SexGeek Blog .  I will go back through and add my commentary in a later entry but this was too good of information not to spread along. As usual, orange text is direct quote, the red and bold emphasis is from the original article. “Polyamory is grad school relationship. It’s for grownups only. If you can’t yet bring yourself to communicate honestly with your partner about everything that goes wrong….and don’t wait too long after it goes wrong, and don’t lay on guilt when you bring it up, then don’t do it. Stay monogamous. Polyamory is not the place to work out your neuroses, any more than running a marathon is the best way to exercise your recently-broken and healing ankle.” - Raven Kalde...

So, don't forget about the 3,333 kiriban. Free t-shirt! FREE. Email me the screen shot of the page counter at the bottom at 3,333 pageviews and the shirt is yours. Also, headey shavey is on for next Friday. I might even upload a picture of myself, cropped of course...

I'm beginning to get a feel for the annoyance and frustration that some people go through when trying to identify themselves on websites or in surveys. I'm not heterosexual, I'm not homosexual and I'm not bisexual.  I'm pansexual. Wikipedia defines pansexuality as:  the potential for sexual attractions, sexual desire , romantic love , or emotional attraction, towards people of all gender identities and biological sexes . [2] [3] Self-identified pansexuals may refer to themselves as gender-blind —that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others. [4] The Oxford English Dictionary writes that pansexuality "encompasses all kinds of sexuality; not limited or inhibited in sexual choice with regards to gender or activity." [5] The concept of pansexuality deliberately rejects the gender binary , the idea that there are only two genders, [6] as pansexual people are open to relations...

I wasn't going to do this. Not because I don't have thoughts about this, or things to say... But because this blog isn't necessarily the place for it.  I've scrapped those thoughts and will put this here. I won't update about it publicly, but it will be here for anyone who reads this.  I've spent far too much time in the last few days and years reading accounts, looking at information and expanding my knowledge of what physically happened on that day. September 11, 2001 I was in high school, outside Philadelphia Pennsylvania USA. I was 14, in 9th grade if I count back correctly.. I was in French class when I heard that something had happened. Completely unaware until sometime around 10am because I carted myself off to school at 7:15am. My french teacher refused to acknowledge anything had happened and went on with the class. Murmurs began to filtrate, something had happened in NY, NY, something bad.  At home room (after first period) there was an announcement ...

Ok.. Getting this shit FINALIZED. It is official, I'm going to bite the bullet and take off ALL my head hair (keeping my eyebrows, I like those). [ https://www.nationalbreastcancer.org/donate/ ] When I was 7, breast cancer claimed my biological mother (I'm alright, really, I have the worst most wonderful non-biological mother and get an absolute kick out of the fact that I am adopted by one parent). Breast cancer research has come so far in the 15 or so years, but it needs to go farther. The discovery of the BRCA1 and BRCA2 genes that are known to cause breast cancer was a huge revelation in how cancer is passed on genetically. I plan to get tested for both genes in the next year. September 1 was the anniversary of her death and when my Dad told me this I was really devastated. I think my kid brain really shut out a lot of the when and wheres of a lot of that part of my life. Now that I know and I remember I'll make sure I never forget. I'd like to do...

Hello new blogger UI, you sure are different. And hello September, you sure are different too. Big updates. I gave my notice at (stupid) job. Wanna know why? Cause I was given an offer from a fantastic company that I accepted. So now I have (Better) job and a few more straggly days for (stupid) job.  This is a big thing for me. I will be working from home and by the middle of September I will be official out of retail work. More updates and things... I do have some stuff that needs to be finished and archived.  Kamm's gonna have to get on some of it. Hurray! :D I guess I can try kiribaning this shit up again... What do we say lovlies? 3,333 pageview (screenshot to eroticwetatomic@gmail.com)  gets a t-shirt?

Someone on FetLife asked for an explanation of howDVP works. I know I already have a DVP entry in here, but here's an update. Also, holy hell. It's September! DVP stands for double vaginal penetration and it is FANTASTIC. If you've got a vagina and you're into penetration and totally get off on it, you will probably like DVP. I'm 5'6'', 150 pounds and I've been doing this for almost 3 years. I've done it with smaller than average dicks, average dicks and bigger than average dicks and all combinations. I've seen a 5'2'' 100 pound girl take two larger than average dicks and enjoy the hell out of it. Body size is not a limiting factor. Vaginas stretch, this is a fact. They also STRETCH BACK. You can go back to having pleasurable single partner sex within 2 minutes of DVP. Or at least I can, and so can everyone else I've ever spoken to about this. Don't worry. Vaginas in an aroused state are very flexible and ...

I've got a lot of things milling around my mostly mushy brain right now.  I had a very intense rope scene last night with a wonderful rigger and it's no small matter my brain is still off, but unusually sharp today. I talk to a lot of conventionally thinking single men and women about why I am in an open relationship. Almost none of them get why and that's alright. It took me years to get to where I am today and every day has been a journey where I have learned something be it good or bad about myself and others. There have been a lot of ups, a lot of downs and a lot of situations where I've cried either for joy, or shame.  I'd like to talk about my personal journey to non-monogamy. In any of my past relationships, a non monogamous commitment would have never worked because neither I nor my partners trusted each other enough to allow this to happen. I've dated good guys, I've dated jealous guys I've dated immature guys, but none of them were right f...

This concept is something I see all the time.  Not just with swingers but with almost any single man I talk to.  If I am not their cup of tea (or more usually, if I am not interested in them sexually) they always go for the "other hot girls" question. "Do you have any hot friends that you think would like me/would be interested in me/you could introduce me to?" Insert any variation of that question here.  Somehow, guys think it's a good idea to pester her about her single female friends, or her hot swinger female friends.  If you have any respect for yourself or the girl you're with. Don't ever ask one of these questions. Now I shall explain to you why you should not do this.  It's insulting. Also, girls aren't really into setting their good friends up with creepos they don't know very well.  Introducing "you" to one of her girlfriends means she's vouching for you; that you aren't creepy, or a douche bag or an ass.  She ...